A Facebook conversation I was privy too has got me thinking a lot today and it’ll be really helpful to know your thoughts on this.
Ok so a friend of mine points out the importance of dressing modestly and not baring all for the world to see. And someone responds, that you can dress immodestly but still be immoral, or you could dress immodestly because that’s what your husband, boyfriend or whatever likes.
As someone who’s been there and done the low-cut top, skin-tight dress and mini-skirt slit up to my waist fashion and got the t-shirt that practically says, I’m not a ho, but I dress like one, I think I’ve not only heard all the excuses there are out there for dressing like one is allergic to clothes, in fact I think I’ve dished a few out myself.
Most of these excuses were more ludicrous to say than they were to hear. One of the daftest excuses for dressing promiscuously is doing it to please one’s partner. Now I should be clear its insane for a Christian woman to say, she’s exposing her boobs and her buttocks because that’s how her husband likes to see her dress.
Errrm, how about dress that way at home and be decent in public – set an example please! Besides, I think the fact that your husband likes that sort of thing means you seriously need to pray for him. Some women dress the part for fear they’ll loose their man to one of the million and one women out there without scruples.
Fact is, in the battle to stay modest and decent, men have a strong role to play. And their part is mainly self control. No doubt men are moved by what they see, but dare I say if you heart is pure, your desires will be pure too.
I know men who are revolted by display of flesh in a woman in a public place, these are men that are sincerely attracted to wholesomeness and I admire these men, because I reckon they have a deeper appreciation for beauty and they realise that when it’s all out on display, an insecurity and self consciousness is on display.
Truth be told, when I used to bare all, I did it for many reasons, to fit in, to get attention, to look sexy, to feel special. Unfortunately, I felt rotten for doing it. It was clear that I was hanging with the wrong crowd; there was an unspoken competition on who was brave enough to bare the most. Even worse I was successful in drawing attention, but it was not the time that I wanted – I wanted a decent guy, but I was pulling perverts.
This brings me to another excuse, I used to give which I still hear from young women today – I’m not promiscuous, but I like dressing this way, its fashion. To me that sounds like, ‘I’m not a ho, just dressing like one.’ Imagine someone who isn’t a surgeon donning the surgical scrubs in an operating room, it could be tragic if you’re called to perform duties you’re not able to do. It does not make any sense.
So guys, what do you think? Do you like girls dressing provocatively, if so would you want your wife, sister or mother to dress this way in public?
Ladies, what’s the deal with baring all? Is revealing ones private parts really sexy, or rather perverted?